8 Traits That Are Making You A Bad Employee and Colleague

No matter how talented you are or what you’ve accomplished, there are certain behaviours that instantly change the way people see you and forever cast you in a negative light.

We’ve all heard of (or seen first-hand) people doing some pretty crazy things at work.

Truth is, you don’t have to throw a chair through a window or quit in the middle of a presentation to cause irreparable damage to your career.

There are so many things that can kill the careers of good, hard-working people. Honest mistakes often carry hard-hitting consequences.

You can’t make the same mistake twice, the second time, it’s not a mistake, it’s a choice.

– Anonymous

There doesn’t have to be a single, sickening moment when you realise that you just shoved your foot firmly in your mouth, either.

Little things can add up over time and undermine your career just as much as (or more than) one huge lapse in judgment.

Self-awareness is a critical skill in the workplace. It’s the foundation of emotional intelligence, a skillset that research shows is responsible for 58% of your job performance.

If you remain self-aware, these mistakes are all things that you can control before they creep up on you and damage your career.

Over-promising and under-delivering

It’s tempting to promise the moon to your colleagues and your clients, especially when you’re honest and hardworking and believe that you can do it.

The problem is that there’s no point in creating additional pressure that can make you look bad.

If you promise to do something ridiculously fast and you miss the deadline by a little bit, you’ll likely think that you did a good job because you still delivered quickly.

But the moment you promise something to someone, they expect nothing less. You end up looking terrible when you fall short, which is a shame, because you could have done the same quality work in the same amount of time with great results if you’d just set up realistic expectations from the beginning.

This is one of those situations where perception matters more than reality.

Don’t deliberately undershoot your goals; just be realistic about the results you can deliver so that you’re certain to create expectations that you will blow out of the water.

Having an emotional hijacking

My company provides 360° feedback and executive coaching, and we come across far too many instances of people throwing things, screaming, making people cry, and other tell-tale signs of an emotional hijacking.

An emotional hijacking demonstrates low emotional intelligence, and it’s an easy way to get fired.

As soon as you show that level of instability, people will question whether or not you’re trustworthy and capable of keeping it together when it counts.

Exploding at anyone, regardless of how much they might “deserve it”, turns a huge amount of negative attention your way.

You’ll be labelled as unstable, unapproachable, and intimidating. Controlling your emotions keeps you in the driver’s seat.

When you are able to control your emotions around someone who wrongs you, they end up looking bad instead of you.

Sucking up to your boss

Some people suck up to their boss and call it managing up, but that isn’t the case at all.

Sucking up has nothing to do with a real relationship built on respect; it is sneaky and underhanded.

Suck-ups try to get ahead by stroking the boss’s ego instead of earning his or her favour. That doesn’t go over well with colleagues who are trying to make it on merit.

Yes, you want to bolster your relationship with your boss, but not by undermining your colleagues. That’s the key distinction here.

For a boss-employee relationship to work, it must be based on authenticity. There’s no substitute for merit.

Backstabbing

The name says it all. Stabbing your colleagues in the back, intentionally or otherwise, is a huge source of strife in the workplace.

One of the most frequent forms of backstabbing is going over someone’s head to solve a problem.

People typically do this in an attempt to avoid conflict, but they end up creating even more conflict as soon as the victim feels the blade.

Anytime you make someone look bad in the eyes of their colleagues, it feels like a stab in the back, regardless of your intentions.

Negativity

Sometimes when you’re feeling negative and down, your mood can leak out and affect other people, even if you don’t intend it to.

You were hired to make your boss’s and your team’s jobs easier, not harder.

People who spread negativity through their department and complain about the work or other people complicate things for everyone else.

If people always have to tiptoe around you so as not to dislodge that massive chip on your shoulder, they are unlikely to be willing to do it for very long.

Gossiping

People make themselves look terrible when they get carried away with gossiping about other people.

Wallowing in talk of other people’s misdeeds or misfortunes may end up hurting their feelings if the gossip finds its way to them, but gossiping will make you look negative and spiteful every time, guaranteed.

Bragging

When someone hits a home run and starts gloating as they run the bases, it’s safe to assume that they haven’t hit very many home runs.

On the other hand, if they hit a home run and simply run the bases, it conveys a business-as-usual mentality, which is far more intimidating to the other team.

Accomplishing great things without bragging about them demonstrates the same strong mentality — it shows people that succeeding isn’t unusual to you.

Announcing that you hate your job

The last thing anyone wants to hear at work is someone complaining about how much they hate their job. Doing so labels you as a negative person and brings down the morale of the group.

Bosses are quick to catch on to naysayers who drag down morale, and they know that there are always enthusiastic replacements waiting just around the corner.

Bringing It All Together

These behaviours may sound extreme and highly inconsiderate, but they have a tendency to sneak up on you. A gentle reminder is a great way to avoid them completely.

Travis Bradberry is the award-winning co-author of the #1 bestselling book, Emotional Intelligence 2.0, and the cofounder of TalentSmart, the world’s leading provider of emotional intelligence tests and training, serving more than 75% of Fortune 500 companies. To connect with him, email editor@leaderonomics.com.